Showing Goodwill 2020

Showing Goodwill to others during the Covid-19 Pandemic

A strong social support system improves overall mental health outcomes and the ability to bounce back from stressful situations.

Tips to Support Someone in Being Their Best

One of the greatest responsibilities we have is to support ourselves and others in living at our highest and best. Whether we are parents, partners, friends, or leaders, it is up to us to help others to live as close to their unique potential as we can.

With everything we say and do, we are influencing, positively or negatively the people we care about. The idea is to do this with consideration and intention. Here are tips you can help others see and realize the best that’s within them:

Believe in them

We all have self-doubts from time to time. Our confidence is shaken. We lack the faith in our talents and skills to go for an important promotion or launch a new initiative. Having someone believe in you at these times is priceless. The stories of great men and women are saturated with examples of someone who believed in them even when they did not fully believe in themselves.

Encourage them

“You can do it.” “I know you can.” These are words that are all-too-infrequently voiced. Sincere encouragement can go a long way in helping someone stay the course

Expect a lot

We are often told not to get our hopes up. We are encouraged to have ‘REALISTIC’ expectations. But when it comes to helping others operate at their best, we sometimes have to up-level our expectations. This can be taken to extremes, but there are many times when a teacher, a parent or even a boss has required more of us than we thought we were capable. We must rise to the challenge which enabled us to see further than before.

Tell the truth

And tell it with compassion. We often avoid telling the hard truth because we don’t want to upset anyone. We want to be ‘NICE’. But telling the truth is a loving act. You may be the only person who can or will say to another what needs to be said. And you can confront someone without being combative.

Be a role model

One of the best ways we influence is by our own actions. Who we are speaks much more loudly than what we say. Do not think that people aren’t watching you. They are, and they are registering everything about you consciously and unconsciously. We automatically emulate our role models. And we are all role models to someone so let’s be good ones.

Share yourself

Too often, we miss the value of sharing our failings. We do not want to be vulnerable, so we hold back. In doing so, we deprive others of our experience, our learning, and our humanity. When you share from your own experience, especially your failures you increase empathy, you’re more approachable and you increase your relatability to others.

Challenge them

The word “challenge” has some negative connotations. The meaning we are using here is, “a test of one’s abilities or resources in a demanding but stimulating undertaking.” We all need to be challenged from time to time. Doing it for another is an art form. Go too far and it will backfire. Go too easy and you will appear patronizing. Remind people of their commitment to being their best and state your challenge. “I challenge you to overcome these unimportant opinions and get on with the real task at hand, get the job done, make the commitment, etc.”

Ask good questions

A good therapist or coach does not tell their clients what to do. They ask good questions for the client to understand themselves better, to get clear on what the issue is and from there to make good choices. You can do the same. By asking elegant questions, you cause people to think and come up with solutions. They will appreciate it.

Acknowledge them

You find what you are looking for, if you are looking for the best in someone, you’ll see it. If you are looking for their failings, you’ll see those. Catch people doing things right and tell them. When we acknowledge the good deeds of others, they tend to do more of them.

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Sources Advertised:

https://mhanational.org/supporting-others

https://issuesiface.com/magazine/support-someone-in-being-their-best