Brothers forever

Today was the day I brought my new son home. As I opened the front door, everything went into slow motion, my life that day had changed forever. This long awaited day had finally arrived, I felt so alive. As I lay my son down in his cot, he stared at me and my heart was already melting. I listened to every noise he made, eager to know him, understand him, I had only known him for a few hours, yet I felt that he belonged with me.

My eldest was sleeping upstairs, he was going to stay at a friends but had been too excited, so they had babysat him at home. I gently woke him up to take him to the toilet. He gave me a big cuddle, “is he here… is he here?” he asked half asleep. “Yes” I said, “your baby brother is downstairs”. I had been waiting so long for this day, tried to imagine and wondered how I would feel. My eldest son rushed down to look at him, tears welled in my eyes. It had only been hours, but I knew, this was one of the most important and best decisions of my life. For the next few days, he kept on asking me “is he with us forever?”, “are we brothers for ever?”. I was so happy to assure him that he was… we are his forever family.  Now three months on, our lives have truly changed. We are simply three, the three of us, its wonderful, hard work, tiring, relentless and truly amazing, my extended family were so excited to meet and have welcomed him so openly and warmly, he has fully settled, he knows he is at home and belongs… our family is now complete.

Procare is great, they support you, help you understand what it means to adopt a baby and help you to reflect and gain insight into yourself. They help prepare you for this truly life changing moment, by challenging and advising. They also are truly supportive. For me, this has meant I have two wonderful sons, I have a family that I see each day is getting stronger, closer, bonding more and more.

I have had a good career, worked internationally, travelled extensively, however nothing compares to parenthood. Knowing that I consciously chose to adopt is with me everyday, as when I am balancing school runs and sleep routines, combing taking one son up for the toilet at night with giving my baby son a bottle, swimming in our pool and going to the park together, I am proud of my conscious decisions, of me fulfilling my duty as a father, of my family. Its incredible how we have bonded as a family, how I adore my new baby, he is so lovely, funny and sweet. Everyday he seems to do or learn something new, and this is just the beginning! This is the meaning of life! Thank you Pro-care, you have also been amazing!

From an adoptive father

June 2022